Dating and Waiting

I would like this to be distributed to every young woman out there. I am here today to discuss dating- what to do, and what not to do. I would like it to be said that I have never dated. I am in college and I have never had a boyfriend- that is 18 years being single. I cannot tell you that it has been easy. There have been times that it has been really hard.

So lets first start by saying that if you are not yet in high school, the thought of dating should be far from your head. You don't have your license which means that you don't have a car. So please ladies, put the thought of dating out of your head for a while. Try being friends with him-and yes I do mean "just friends." Enough of this "we are friends with benefits" or "we are more than friends" The only benefits you should be giving your guy friends is maybe letting them steal one of your fries at lunch. Throwing "with benefits" behind the word Friends is only going to confuse you and stir up emotions in your heart that you don't need to stir up. Please try focusing on school, church, family and your girly friends. All of those things should outweigh any feelings that you have for boys.

Secondly, lets talk about your self worth. How do you feel about yourself. Do you look in the mirror and think how wonderful you are? Or do you look in the mirror and see everything that you want to change? If the first, you go girl! You are on this incredible path towards being who God created you to be :) If you can relate to the second scenario better, I want to begin by telling you that you are beautiful. God created you and he thinks that you are absolutely perfect. I used to be where you are. I used to look at myself and think ..ICK! I used to think that I needed a boyfriend to complete me or to make me feel worth something. It took me a long time to change that thought. A really long time. It wasn't easy. I don't know what your insecurities are, I don't know why you don't feel confident, but I want to tell you to stop believing everything the world classifies as beautiful. You need to love yourself before you can start to let another person, a boy, love you. Plus I will give you a little secret, boys really, really like confident girls.

The third thing we need to talk about is how a man should treat you. You should never feel unsafe with a boy. You should never feel fear to be around him. You should never feel worthless or insignificant. You should never feel like an item. He should make you feel beautiful, you should feel protection and safety. You should feel happy and you should feel like you really matter to him. The second that you feel fear, unsafe, scared or anything like that, you need to leave. I don't mean fear- as in nervous about the future. I mean fear as in something bad could happen. If he is ever abusive- physically, mentally or emotionally... please leave. I know that you may care for him and that he can be sweet, but your health and safety is so much more important.

This concludes the first thing that I want to say about dating. And i want to encourage every young woman to wait for the right man to come into your life. I am still single, but when I know that the perfect guy is going to be worth it> I also know that every older woman will say this to you. But please take it from me.... I UNDERSTAND how hard it is to be single and be patient. But believe me, it will be worth it!!

as you wish

Have you ever seen the movie "Princess Bride?" Can you quote the movie "Princess Bride?"

I was on pinterest tonight... per usual... and I cam across a sign that said as you wish with the grandpa from princess bride and something struck me. Think about how much Wesley loved Buttercup. He loved her so much that the only thing he would say to her was "as you wish." And we all know what he really was saying was "i love you."

So how come we can't have this same attitude with our savoir? Why can't i respond this way when God tells me to do something? I rarely say "as you wish." My responses towards His callings are normally: well okay I guess if you are going to make me do it I can grin and bear it.

I want to have the same attitude as Wesley the farm boy.

I dont know where this is going.